My father was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
My father died from prostate cancer.
I married, became a stepmom and had a son.
My sister was diagnosed with late stage breast cancer.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was 38 years old.
Axillary node dissection
Chemo with Taxol
I started a business to help others with lymphedema.
My sister died at my home from breast cancer.
My husband and I divorced.
My sister’s daughter came to live with me.
My ex decided to move to the other side of the country.
My son misses his father
My son misses his sister
I miss my step daughter
My mother died from her long battle with cancer.
I live with lymphedema. I am 44 years old, the same age my sister was when she died.
My life experiences do not define me, I define me.
One of the first comments I hear from people I haven’t seen in a while is “wow you look great.” I always find this so strange and my usual response is “I do?” I guess this is because it’s really not a choice for me unless I want to give in to the abyss of my condition and situation. There are so many who, like me, get up every day and choose to fight. It’s not an easy choice and every day is a new chance to give up. To be honest, some days I do give up a bit but then the next day I choose to fight again. The beauty of life is that we have choices we can make every minute of every day that can either head us toward a more fulfilled life or head us down the road of self-destruction. In my opinion, the road toward self-destruction is the easy path. No matter what your situation, you have the power of choice and it really is up to you what you do with it. You can lean on others through this journey but in the end, if you want to be successful, you must stand alone and find the strength within to make choices that lead in the direction you want to go.
Through my journey, I have found the road to self-fulfillment has had a lot of bumps in it and many times I have tripped but I got up, dusted myself off and kept going. Life is neither good nor bad, it is what we make of it. I choose to make the best of it! Follow me and join me on this trip of a lifetime.